It’s not always easy to ask for help

​I was talking to someone recently who is fiercely independent, and very resistant to asking anyone for help. She knows how she got like this: She had a difficult, chaotic childhood when there was never a caring, mature adult around to help her out of the myriad...

Kissing the Frog – A visualisation

​All of us grew up on those fairy stories that involved an enchanted royal person being turned into some sort of frog, or toad, and who required their true love – usually another good-looking prince or princess – to rescue them by giving them a kiss.As soon as that...

leaving the cult: the river visualisation

One of the most frustrating and damaging aspects of being in a relationship with an NPD person is that you can’t get closure on any of the things that are bothering you or upsetting you about the relationship.You can often find yourself locked in a kind of mental ‘tug...

a really un-pc visualisation

I think like many of us in 2016, I’ve struggled for years trying to figure out how to properly deal with many of the disturbed people out there. My struggles have ranged from dealing with flat-out bullies and plainly abusive individuals, to the more covertly messed-up...