It’s not always easy to ask for help

​I was talking to someone recently who is fiercely independent, and very resistant to asking anyone for help. She knows how she got like this: She had a difficult, chaotic childhood when there was never a caring, mature adult around to help her out of the myriad...

Clearing the blocks

​The last couple of weeks, I’ve been very ‘subliminally stressed’. There could be a lot of reasons for that, not least the space weather connection, which can cause us to feel mega-stressed physically even when our own life is going swimmingly.But the ‘why’ is not the...

Our house, our rules

​Over the last few years, I’ve been having an ongoing ‘discussion’ with my teens about the limits of being able to do what they want.I’ve noticed that a lot of parents seem to be ducking the whole issue of teaching teens how to figure out healthy compromises with...

Kissing the Frog – A visualisation

​All of us grew up on those fairy stories that involved an enchanted royal person being turned into some sort of frog, or toad, and who required their true love – usually another good-looking prince or princess – to rescue them by giving them a kiss.As soon as that...

Not a big deal

​When we’re little, everything in the world seems so much ‘bigger’ than it actually really is. How many times have we returned to a place we used to frequent as a child that used to seem so much larger than life when we were little, only to find it strangely shrunken...

Energized Stability

​If I had to try to sum up the pattern my life has fallen into in the fewest words possible, I’d have to say roller coaster.You know, lots of ups, tons of downs – and very little in between.There are no ‘plateaus’ in roller coaster rides. Either it’s hard graft to try...